I don’t have a PHD in Infertility but if there was a Tshirt going I think I have earned it! Mummy to six year old Zac and now mummy also to twins Anya Elizabeth Rose and Xavier Andrew, I now finally, fortunately feel my life is complete. And yet, the experience of trying for our second (and as it happened third!) child created another need in me and that was to reach out and tell our story, share our experiences and reassure other couples that it is OK to want another child, you’re not being greedy and you should not feel guilty.
Originally from Lancashire, I now live in the Yorkshire Wolds with my husband Jason and I am delighted to say, our wonderful three children who have inspired so much in me. Zac who is mentioned so often in the book and our miracle babies Anya and Xavi who were born in 2017.
I started writing my book in 2011 during the first round of IVF. Four rounds, £20,000 spent and two babies born later, I completed the book in 2014. I tried a number of publishers before one particular one said: “we love the book and think you’d be great to work with, it’s just we can’t commission because nobody searches for ‘Secondary Infertility’ on Amazon and we don’t think there is a market for this book.”
That comment lit a touch paper in me I never knew existing and I spent the next 2 years trying to raise the profile of the term ‘Secondary Infertility’ and all it’s complexities. I had four rounds of IVF and spent £20k and nobody even mentioned that term to me – so of course others like me wouldn’t search Amazon for this unknown term!
In 2017, I finally published the book myself. There has been a tremendous response from all over the world and I remain committed to my mission to raise the profile of the condition, it’s name and all the painful complexities.
More Love To Give is my story, but it’s only the start, this is really the story of Secondary Infertility.
I now run the support website www.secondaryinfertilitymatters.com a FB page and Group of the same name and regularly speak on the subject.
You can buy a copy here. Enjoy.
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